This weekend was this little girl I know first Regionals competition for cheer and as I was there watching (which by the way they didn’t place) even though they did a phenomenal routine. They just didn’t place. This time.

This young lady said she was happy and sad, she was happy because she was really tired and needed the break.

They work 5 days a week with games on Saturdays plus travel games, all while maintaining school homework, family time, friend time and alone time.

It is a lot for them at their age,(as well as finding their identity in this world)although very good ( she has always done best and strived in a very rigorous schedule)

But….that will be for another blog too…Let’s just say to be continued.

Her mom found out in 3rd grade, going into 4th grade. WOW!! I remember her mom stating that those were some tough years!!

Today, this young lady in her teen years is gifted and strives to do her very best and if she thinks she could have done better she strives to do it next time or she works out a solution.

As we get older and we sure learn things constantly, I have learned you can really learn some valuable lessons from a child .

Overall, she loved the experience of Regionals competition and she said she was nervous at first but as soon as she got out there, “it’s like game on, let’s go! Let’s do this!” So, she is a little spot light young lady and that is so AWESOME for her because so many allow their fears of that to get into their way!

She also has the strong ability to take all that is bothering her and push it outward into what she is doing in a positive way

She is driven! Not competitive, it is in my opinion that it is two very different things.

To be driven, is something that comes from within like passion.

If one is competitive, then they can have a tendency to be that way with everyone, even their own teammates. There is no “I” in team, things will bother you with another but to be a team you must work them out and unite.

That’s what will make a winning team.

However, no matter what, it’s a lesson. Do you feel like your child does their best? Do you even ask them that?

Does your child know how to loose as well? Do they only get your “praise” when they are winning?

How do they feel, if they don’t win?

How do you feel if they don’t win?

Do you feel they must be rewarded even if they don’t win and what does that tell our children or teach them?

I feel it is a mistake to make it up to children for not winning. What does that say about us as their leaders?

We are not always going to win in life and when we don’t we can’t afford to have delayed gratification we must learn a lesson of if we think we did our best and if not what needs to improve if anything at all. It just might be a simple attitude adjustment at this age.

This age sets the mark for their adulthood and so do some of these valuable lessons of life

Sometimes, parents...(and this is a tough one to ponder) it can be us, our children model our behavior.

How do we act when we don’t win at life or circumstances?

Because….wether we realize it or not they are looking for someone to look up to!

They don’t go off of “because I said so” they feel shut out and unheard and then that feeling gets shoved down in them, never resolving.

I will blog more about that…

They need us to hear them and if there is any hope to saving this generation, it must be done in the home first.

It starts with us.

Are you victorious in winning battles? 💕💕🦋